For many, talking about death is a taboo subject. None of us like to think about passing away, and equally, we don’t want to think about our loved ones passing away. This reluctance can make it challenging for loved ones when planning a funeral, as they’re left with little guidance as to what arrangements the person who has passed would have liked.
Pre-planning your funeral, or encouraging a loved one to do so, can help to alleviate those concerns, ensuring major considerations are taken care of. This doesn’t have to include a full-scale pre-planned package, including everything you want to happen on the day. It could be as simple as whether you would like to be cremated or buried, the flowers you would like or if you’d like everyone to wear a specific colour. Either way, it gives some level of certainty to your loved ones about exactly how you’d like them to celebrate your life as an individual.
The rise of pre-planned funerals post COVID
Following a turbulent year, with many people impacted by COVID, death has been at the forefront of the entire country’s thoughts.
COVID restrictions have made funeral planning difficult, with numbers being restricted and limits being placed on the possibilities for the celebration of life. This has left many concerned about what their own funeral or the funeral of a loved one may be like, should the worst happen. Additionally, with lots of people sadly passing away unexpectedly, many executors of the will or loved ones have been left to arrange last-minute funerals quickly. As a result, we have seen an immense rise in pre-planned funerals, with many eager to get their funeral plans in place.
What can you pre-plan?
Pre-planning a funeral can involve anything, from the music you’d like to be played to the funeral director personnel you would like to be involved in your funeral proceedings.
When you first decide to pre-plan a funeral – whether that be your own or a loved one’s – funeral directors can generally help you to pre-plan:
- The venue
- Transport on the day
- How you will be cared for after passing
- Your coffin
- The hearse you would like
- The procedure if/when loved ones visit you after passing.
Additional things that you can think about or plan with a funeral director include:
- The music you’d like to be played during the ceremony, if any
- The funeral director personnel carrying out the proceedings
- How you’d like the attendees to dress
- Whether you’d like the proceedings to be religious or not
- The order of service
- An obituary
- The wake or reception.
What are the benefits of a pre-planned funeral?
Simply put, there are two key benefits to pre-planning a funeral:
- Minimise the difficult decisions for your loved ones at a time of sorrow – when someone passes away, loved ones will be struggling with the loss. They will want to spend time grieving for their loved one. At this time, it can be really challenging to tackle the difficult decisions that come with planning a funeral. By pre-planning your funeral, you can take that stress away from your loved ones.
- Your funeral will be exactly how you want it to be – it’s important that every funeral honours the individual who has passed away and is meaningful to those left behind. If your funeral is pre-planned, you can have the peace of mind that it will be exactly how you’d like it to be, as a true reflection of your character. It also gives your loved ones the peace of mind that the day has been how you wanted it to be after the funeral.
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